I want to talk to you about my favorite subject, relationships. Everything that I teach has some kind of martial arts at the end of it. Now many of you don't know me as a martial artist. I'm a professional in many different fields, but martial arts I've done the longest. I've been doing it for 30 years, that’s a very long time to commit yourself to something.
Now I'm older, slower and more broken than before, but the claws and the teeth are still there. Everything I learned, I was able to apply into my life to get to the level that you see, including my study of communication and the mind. For example, when I learned game, II approached the subject as a martial artist, systematically, with discipline and focus, training in every aspect of the game.
For example, in the game we have this thing called an “opener”. When you approach a beautiful woman, you want to do it in a way that doesn't trigger in her “get the fuck away from me”. The more beautiful she is, the more likely she is going to do this.
Do I teach game for women? Yeah, game is from women. Just so you know game is is a woman's art. All This is seduction is a woman's art. I've just mastered the female energy the Yang, the dark force.
When you approach a beautiful woman, don't trigger in her “I have boyfriend, fuck”. There are certain lines that have already have been created, that work if you if you deliver them properly. So for example, the classic one is called “is kissing cheating?”
So what happened was when I started studying this thing called game, a lot of you were stupid, saying “You gotta be natural, just be yourself.”
I'm like, “whatever bro, I've seen what Mestry can do. I've seen what his top students can do. I'm gonna go do this thing.” I come from martial arts. I understand there's technique involved in life. So what I did was for a very long time, very long time, practice just that.
How can I speak to not just a woman but any person without triggering their defense? That's all I practiced until I knew for sure that no matter where you are with me, if I have to start a conversation with any human being, you can rest assured that I will not trigger a negative response from them. It's just not going to happen.
So I practice techniques step by step and I got masterful at it. I still practice all the time. Now we're going to talk about relationships. In relationships, just like life, just like martial arts, just like everything you do, there is a word that is very important and missing. This word is called “commitment”.
Where is everybody's commitment these days though? Like seriously take a look at it. Who was the last committed person? Who was the last person you met, that was committed? Hold on a second. We’re trying to get in these relationships and I happen to think it's very important that a relationship consists of two people committing themselves to each other.
Now, I like to know when was the last time you experienced a woman or a man committing themselves to you. Like saying “I'm going to be here until the end, like for real now. I'm not going to say it like it’s some kind of paperwork. I'm going to demonstrate it.
I'm going to get through the ups and downs with you. I'm going to go through whatever we are going to get through. Why? Because I think you're worth it and I'm committed to this.”
If you want to develop a skill like drumming or doing hair or martial arts or weightlifting, whatever it is, you're going to have to fail a lot. The only reason you're going to keep going is with the understanding that will come eventually, you will achieve success.
You must know this. Otherwise, you would never keep going. So what when there is just too much failure? Well, here we go. Here's the answer.
It depends on your commitment. Matt wants to be the greatest drummer in the world. At what point should Matt quit and say “this is not working.” Well, I've never, that's not how you get there.
So how many failures is he supposed to withstand or go through? It's not even relevant. It doesn't matter. You don't think with it. But then what about relationships? You're committing yourself to another person for the rest of your life or in my case to four women for the rest of your life. Should you be committed? When do you go?
I don't want to do nothing 99%. Shout out to Manu Tupou, my teacher, the guy who broke me out of the cage of the mind. This man came here to San Jose to teach my students and he said: “If you deal with Arash, you have to be at a hundred not at 99. If you're 99, leave now because this man is at a hundred and I know him.
You either are all the way or you get out.” I was thought ”I didn't expect him to say that”, but he was right. It was a hundred percent. I want commitment. Why? Because it's only with commitment, that we get incredible results and that's what I want.