Self-pity is such an ugly thing. One thing I don't want is pity. I don't understand why some people seek it, maybe because they're just weak.
One thing I always tell the people closest to me is, "One day, I'm going to die. And when that day comes, you need to know something about me. If you're not there, then realize that a moment will probably come when I know I'm dying. When the fear hits for a moment, I promise you on my life that the next moment, I will be completely fearless, and I will face it with total certainty ready. If you ever think about me and my life, just know that I did everything I came to do. I never ever compromised my integrity and who I am. I kept my ethics in. I helped a lot of people. I'm very proud of the life I lived. I lived a good life if I died right now, let it be known."
I don't want ever anybody to pity me even when I die. Maybe that's extreme, but I'm kind of an extreme guy. But what about self-pity? Do you ever catch yourself self-pitying? It's one of the ugliest qualities I've ever seen. When I see people do this, I think to myself that you're just prolonging your problem by saying, "I didn't deserve it and it shouldn't have happened to me." All this stuff, it keeps your problem going.
Don't ever pity yourself wherever you are right now. You may be in a bad financial situation, don't pity yourself.
It's a feeling of pity that I don't like. Don't pity yourself. See where you are, whatever's going on. You're out of a shitty relationship, you're in a shitty relationship, you're in no relationship, whatever is happening, don't pity yourself. Instead, chest forward, shoulders back, head up, man up if you're a man, get out there, stop pitying yourself, and make something happen.
When you pity yourself, you're taking on the perspective or the viewpoint of a victim. That's what a victim is. By definition a victim is someone who is getting their ass kicked, their life is whooping them. Don't pity yourself. Instead, do what I'm telling you. Take pride in whatever is happening. You might be in a bad situation right now; many people are, you're not the only one, but remember that you can take pride in getting out of that. You can take pride in learning your lessons and moving on from that.
I've been getting a lot of messages from beautiful women that are telling me that they're coming out of these really abusive relationships after they've been watching my videos. Congratulations, good for you. Believe it or not, I get messages from men that say that. Men are being abused in relationships too emotionally. You have to remember that anything that goes against nature will mess with you. If you're in these bad relationships, then you want to get out. Congratulations when you get out, but don't pity yourself. Don't pity yourself. It's wrong, it's ugly. It makes you a victim. Instead, be proud.
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