You text somebody and ask them how they are doing. He would say he is incredible, tremendous or doing so good. Then you wonder in your mind if they are really that good. People have their safer card. They make you believe that they are great while they may not be. They do this just to get rid of having a conversation with you. I sometimes do this. I do say these things just to get rid of people. But, if I'm talking to a woman, it doesn't sound like that. And you need to learn how to speak to women.
I will give you examples of how you should answer. If a woman asks me “How are you right now,” I would say “I'm deep. I'm deeply connected.” That sounds incredibly powerful. So how to answer the question of “How are you?” Check inside of you and see how you really feel. Can this feeling be conveyed in words? You take your experience inside and then give it to somebody else. That’s the communication technique.
It doesn't have to be positive, it doesn't have to be negative. It has to be descriptive and experiential. You should learn how to speak in a way that affects people. And the way to change people is to describe things in imagery, not just one word or two words like “I’m good. I'm fine.”
Imagine you're an entrepreneur. How do you describe your product? What does your product do? What is it? Imagine you own a machine shop, and you want to explain it in a way that a person can come and experience your place. Ask yourself this question: When do you like a place? You like a place if you walked in and you felt like you are with your family.
When do people feel comfortable in a place? They would feel comfortable if there’s a sense of confidence and energy in the area. Next is how do you describe your product? Because if you explain it better than your competitor, I guarantee you're going to have the edge over your competitors.
So the moment we connect, we connect on a really high level because we're feeling the same thing. Can it be any more intimate than me sharing my experience with you and you all feel exactly the same or similar to what I think? No, I don’t think so. Many people feel something similar because they are all sharing the same experience.