I'm going to talk tonight about relationships. The relationship of the mind and communication. I believe that one can only know oneself in relation to others. Let me explain that again.
You can know yourself. But the moment you interact with another life-form, another part of you shows up. A part that wasn't there. It's almost like you can't fully be yourself the moment you face somebody else. Now, if you face two people, or three people or you face the whole world. You're facing a judgment.
You are facing what other people might think about you and for some reason this is a very big deal to us. For myself, I find my sanctuary in relationships. It's very interesting. It is where the most, if not all, people are insecure or scared or unsure; they are doubtful or chaotic. In that same area, I find peace. That's the area of relationships.
I discovered pieces of myself that were hidden from me, until the other person showed up.
So I'll give you an example. I have friend of mine who likes jazz music. I didn't know how much he liked jazz music. So recently, I was into some radio show and I stumbled upon some great music and it was like the blues - BB King Blues - so I fell in love with this.
So I was in Los Angeles and my friend was in my car and I played one of these blues. So, he said oh, that's so and so. And I said, did you know him? And he said yes!
Then he started talking about that sort of music and I asked him how you know so much about him. He said because that’s my passion, I grew up doing this stuff. So he said, check this out and he starts giving me a breakdown of jazz.
Prior to that conversation, I was one way about jazz and blues. But now, I have a conversation with another human being who I consider my friend through dialogue. I see how excited he is about jazz music and he starts breaking it down for me. And the way that was - the words he used when he was describing about playing jazz - it really made me appreciate what Jazz was.
At least, way more than I did before so then I started to listen with him. I was beginning to listen with different ears. So literally, you could say that my capacity to hear music elevated by having a dialogue with a friend of mine, who appreciated music much more than I did.
Yesterday, I had the pleasure of being at the Ringside at Dragon House, MMA fights. You can see it on my Instagram.
There was super buff black guy and he was fighting another black guy who's scrawny looking. If you looked at these two, you would have thought too that this big guy is going to pummel his ass, then probably eat him.
And when you see this other guy, you you would just say that, bro, get out of there. You don't need to do this. How much are they going to pay you to fight that gorilla?! I don't know if I would fight a gorilla for that much money in a cage!
This was what was going on in people's minds. There was a man and a woman sitting next to me. And one of them made the comment, Oh my God, look at that guy and look at the other guy. Then the other person, I corrected him. She said that the other guy is a Gracie Jiu-Jitsu black belt, which is what I have. And then she said he should able to beat him now.
I caught the edge of that. Here, I thought that the gorilla is going to beat shit out of the other guy. But no, that didn't happen. It went three rounds. The gorilla although won with a decision. Here's what I want to tell you.
There was a point where the guy was on his back. With the other man between his legs like a missionary position. And if you were sitting with somebody who was trained in Jiu-Jitsu, they could tell you what the bottom guy who looked like he was getting beat up - about what techniques he was using to neutralize the size of the guy on top and tire him out.
To the outside eye, it would look like that the guy that is on the bottom is getting punched. To the trained eye, it would look like guy on the bottom was blocking the majority of the hits and tiring out the other guy. Now, if you watch the fights the next time, watch it with two different sets of eyes.
One, you would see a smaller guy, but you would know they both weigh the same. So it's just a muscle mass difference, but they weigh the same. So, although the other guy looks bigger. I'm sure this guy stands a chance.
So once again your ability to observe your world expanded. How? By having a relationship with another person who knew more about the subject.
As I live my life, I'm amazed at all the different stories that people have. I like talking to people. I'm inspired by talking to people. I think this is something that everybody misses about me and needs to know. About why I'm so good at what I do. Truly without a doubt. There is nobody on the planet right now, that can do what I can do, when comes to women.
A big part of the reason I can do what I can do is, you'd be shocked at how often through the day. I admire “Ordinary People”. I could be at target and a person may be ringing me up. And they say, how's your day... and I say something... and they don't understand that I’m admiring them.
Now they have a feeling of a very nice positivity, when I speak. And so, I'm able to create a very good effect on people. What they would be surprised to know and you might be surprised to know is that how quickly I admire people when I see them. I think people are very cool. They got some crazy things going on.
So, I just moved into this apartment complex here. I moved my office to here. And I'm rapidly getting to know the neighbors. And one the neighbors, you we were getting to know each other and already.